Help! My daughter had been dry for about a year. She's recently started frequently bedwetting at night and periodically during naptime at school. We've tried restricting her beverages in the evening, but it doesn't seem to matter. We've run urine tests at the doctor--and they found no medical issue.
About 2 months ago, we got a new sitter to relieve the one we've always had for 2 days a week. I know my daughter has resented her presence, but she was seeming to warm up and yet the bedwetting is still here!
What can I do?
try doing an internet search for "causes of bedwetting"
I've read that diabetic children will sometimes start to wet the bed after being dry.
Ok-- devil's advocate here....I kinda disagree with the other advice you've gotten. We have 2 girls almost 6 and almost 8. Both girls had periods of time (especially around ages 4 and 5) where they had bed wetting again. In both cases, we believe it was growth spurts. The girls were sleeping so soundly because their little bodies were so busy growing they couldn't tell they needed to get up to potty. They both still bed wet on occasion...again when they are tired or growing. Our almost 6 year old has wet the bed 3 times this week (and I mean soaked it) and the 8 year old did it a couple of time last week. To help, we usually get the girls up right before we got to bed for a quick bathroom break---really helps.
Check the background better on this sitter. Maybe she tells scary stories or does something to frighten your daughter.
you should see your ped- if she doesnt have a bladder problem or UTI is she constipated?? Many chidren (and adults) have problems because they are constipated.
Sugar is the next thng to restrict. Sugar works in children like alcohol works in adults. Notice how they fly around the house? Then get crabby and crash.
Sugar will effect their muscle control like alcohol effects adults. They basically lose muscle control, slurred speech, response delay.
Get her on a multi with a balance B vitamin. B's will help her a lot, plus stop the sugar craving.
( This includes too much fruit as well, as they say, sugar is sugar)
I know a few vitamins that work well.
I will start with you are not alone this is a very harsh thing to deal with...Kids at 4 years can start this again for all kinds of reasons, being jelious is a did one, wanting more attition, and it sounds harsh and i dont want to scare you but the one i went through was someone messed with her if you know what i mean i cant even say it, it bothers me so bad.....But i went through the tests and the jeliousy was not an issue she was everything all the time,,, and then the doctor asked if she may have been messed with and at 4 it is hard to say maybe cause she had never been with anyone i did not trust, but i did find out after paying close attition to who wanted to be around her all the time and it was a family member and it never went to far but just that bit of uncomfortableness was enough for her to have these issues and that i hope is not an issue but i want to be honest....She is most likley going through issues over the sitter change and as long as you tell her that peeing on herslef will not get her, her way she has to be a big girl. One thing we did with my nephew was started making him wash his underware and clothes in the tub or sink and tell him see you dont like the smell and we dont like cleaning it either, his was over a new baby coming home. He stopped because he did not like cleaning his own clothes out, it only took a few times, and even though he cried he had to do it anyway...But peeing for a kid is a tough thing because if you disapline them the wrong way could cause it to get worse....and no one wants that...Think of a form of disapline that you think will be best and stick to it,,spanking will cause it to get worse and will make it harder, you can try like taking something away and tell her that if she does not pee on herslef she can get it back,,,but only you really know the mantalty of your child and that is how you figure out what to do.....One big thing is not to make a big deal out of it simply tell her is is wrong what she did and disapline( whatever form u choose) and then move on,,,if it is an attition thing draging it out will only make it continue...Good luck and i hope this helps at least a little....
Are you suspicious at all of the new sitter? Kids that are potty trained for that length of time dont revert back unless there is a problem. You need to let her know that you are there for her & she can talk to you about whats bothering her. Dont wait another minute. good luck
Maybe your little one is fearful of the new change in her life. Even though it seems she is warming up to the new nanny does not mean that she is a hundred percent confident that she likes her or that she too will leave. Is there something happening with the sitter that you are not aware of? Maybe set up a nanny cam, to be sure the sitter is ok Try to spend some time with both of them doing normal things at home as well as fun things. Your daughter will feel better seeing that you are comfortable around the new sitter and trust her more. Also try talking to your daughter while you both are sitting and coloring together. While you are doing this try asking your daughter simple questions about the color of the crayons, her favorite color, her favorite toy and so on. Then start to ask her about how she feels about the new sitter. Simply is she sad? angry, scared? and try to get her to open up about how she is feeling all along reassuring her that you have felt these feelings too!! especially in new situations! After you are able to talk set up some type of reward system to help her with her bed wetting. We used a star chart for our son when he went through a tough time and along with talking it worked! Good Luck!! and No worries, everything will be wonderful! :)
Hi,
Both my husband and I were bed wetters because we both worried about different things. I have anxiety issues and he had parents that just caused anxiety. Make sure before she goes to bed she has talks to what ever parent she feels closest to. Our seven year old is has had the same issue your child is in. We had all the testing done too. She was even at one point have many bladder infections. We have found it is a combinations of some the things people have mentioned below. First, address the sugar issue. Our daughter does not drink any pop or juice. She can not even eat fruit snacks it irritates her. Every now and then we let her have one, but for the most part she does not have any of this stuff. We disscussed this withe her and how it made her feel. She is ok with overall ask long as once in a while she can have a treat. She uses everynight what we call "paper underwear" underjams. There has been such stigmaitism on bedwetting. If you are ok so, will your child. Do not punish your child as the one parent suggest because as the othter parent mentioned that your child's body is handling most likely stress and sugar in this way as they grow is not their fault. What you can do is teach them to be responsible for their things like their sheets when they wet as they get older or throwing away their "paper underwear". Our daugher puts her "underwear" in her dresser. Hope this is helpful. My husband and I both eventually grew out of this eventuall-I was 21...I slept deeply.
C., from the outside it does seem like it's stress related. My nephew had this problem until he was 10 or so. As soon as his mom broke up with the step dad (which happened twice), it stopped. His subconscious stress outlet was to pee in bed. He had learned to manage the other stress outlets (arguing with the step dad, crying, etc).
