I did this method when my husband and I were tryign with difficulity as well. The greatest book to help you understand it all is "Taking Charge of your fertility" by Toni Weschler. It is the greatest book in the world and I found it very helpful. (you could even check it out from your library) see the website: http://www.tcoyf.com/
From what I remember (Since I had PCOS and my temps were all over the place as well, The quick drop in your temp and then back up the next day is ovulation, but you have to watch your charting as somone can have other slight dips until their period. 18 high temps after ovulation confirm pregnancy. Which you need to watch for your lutel phase which can be between 14 to 16 high temps if I remember right. My leutel phse was 16 days of high temps. That meant that I would mostlky get my period on day 16 of high temps and then I would usually see my temp drop back down significanetly on that 16th day. When we finially got pregnant I didn't test until the 18th day of high temps and I got a postivie.
I know that this is can be very frutrating but I really got a handle on charting by using the book with my charts.
I also used ovulation detectors whith the clomid and charting, which we finally went to the doctor after three months of clomid and found out that my eggs were releasing when they were too big and hard, on the 15th day of the fourth round of clomid we went in for an ultra sound and I had an egg to be release, I was given a shot to help release the egg. My daughter turned four last september.
Hang in there I know it can be frustrating and heartbreaking. I wish you all the best of luck.
H.-