I wasn't sure if anyone would check back in on my past request, so I thought that I would post it for everyone. Past request summery: My best friend is 8 weeks pregnant, goes in for an ultrasound, and found an empty sac. Doc's were going to take blood and wait a week before performing another ultrasound.
So here is what has happened, on monday she and I talked and discovered that her nausea had increased, and she was spotting dark brown. I thought those were good signs, that her hormone level was increasing and she was still pregnant. On tuesday she had her appointment, and the doc said she had lost the baby. Her body had maintain high hormone levels, hence her increase in symptoms. she decided to go through with the D & C on friday.
She is doing as well as can be expected. Her positive statements have been "at least I know I can get pregnant now." That has been something she has been trying to do for 3 years.
She does have plans to start trying again in a couple of months, though we all will be a lot more cautious with our celebration of her next pregnancy.
Thank you all so much for your prayers and concerns. Your information was very benefical and encouraging!
Blessings,
P.
Thanks for the update...I was wondering. Happy birthday to your little girl!!!
You're a great friend for looking into all this for her.
I've heard of this happening before.
I had a really tough time getting pregnant - 3 yrs would have been glory since the 1st time I saw a positive test it had been closer to 7 years. It is true though that knowing you CAN get pregnant is awesome...
Kepp us posted on when she does. A lot of people keep it quiet for the 1st trimester. I think it's best to do so and only tell very discreet people or family who are sensitive. My sister learned this the hard way.
She's a speech and language therapist - was at a conference for dyslexia and there were a lot of co-workers etc there. She had her membrane rupture at 20 wks and her baby didn't survive.
She's standing in a circle and a woman says, weren't you pregnant? Did you already have your baby???
She said - no, you're mistaken.
Woman - no! I could have sworn you were pregnant, am I nuts?
She says - *smile* its okay..
WOman - Gosh I just could hav sworn - you were so pregnant the last time I saw you!!
My sister wanted to DIEEEE how could that woman not "get" it....
My sister was not about to tell her story in front of all those people, how insensitive....
Anyway..
Keep in touch
Amy
I had the same thing happey to me, except I didn't have the D&C at first. I started spotting a few days before my first OB appointment so went into the office and had an ultrasound with an empty sac. They gave me the option of letting things happen naturally or have the D&C. I thought I would rather have some bleeding and cramping than go under general anesthesia. About a month later I started hemorrhaging and had to have an emergency D&C. My doctor told me from all the above, it seemed like I was not producing enough progesterone to maintain a pregnancy and if I got pregnant again to let them know so they could start me on it immediately. Well, I moved out of state and got pregnant again. This time the sac wasn't empty, but there was no heart beat and it was about 2 weeks behind in size. On an ultrasound 2 weeks later, the sac was empty and I opted for the D&C this time around. I then went for a fertility workup to see if they could figure out what the problem was. After many tests and procedures, I was advised to be put on progesterone if I got pregnant again. That finally worked. I got pregnant 1 more time, was on progresteron suppositories for the first 3 months and delivered at healthy baby girl.
My doctor with the last pregnancy even made a similar statement that he thought it would be somewhat easier to deal with in that you knew you could at least get pregnant rather than someone who could not get pregnant at all. I also felt that way after the first miscarraige, but after the second one, my opinion changed drastically. On the last pregnancy when I went for the first ultrasound, I would not look at the screen until I heard the words "there's the heart beat." I wouldn't tell anyone I was pregnant until well after the first trimester was up. It was harder on me because I was so worried about going through another miscarriage that I was afraid to be happy about being pregnant. I think it's also harder because you're just disappointed when you don't get pregnant. When you get pregnant and miscarry, you go through the elation of being pregnant and then come down hard when you lose it.
I'm not trying to be discouraging. I finally had my baby at the age of 42 after very difficult pregnancy, but she was definitely worth every bit of it. I'm just trying to provide some (hopefully) insight for you to help you support your friend. She's very lucky to have such a good friend.
Your friend will be in my thoughts and prayers. I too lost a baby and four months later I tried again and now have a beautiful healthy boy....and now a new baby girl.
I had that very same thing happen to me. I was pregnant, went for an ultra sound and i saw the little bag, and it was empty. It was horrible. You can see the ultra sound and see where the baby is supposed to be, but isnt. They told me that the bag was a bit mal shaped and it could have had problems, so that helped me deal with it a bit better. Your friend is way more upset probably then she is showing. I have six kids. some came before that miscarriage, and some after. So I am sure she will be fine. Just keep encouraging her. That that miscarriage was just a flook, and that you are sure she will be a mommy soon.
I am so sorry to hear that it ended in a miscarriage! But, like she said, atleast she knows she can get pregnant now. I hope her doctor keeps an eye on her hormone levels. Like I said in my other response, it took me 6 months until my hormone levels were at a normal level and it was safe to try again. If they stay high, it may happen again. I know it sounds like she has a positive outlook, but still be there for her. There were days I just started crying at the thought of losing my baby, so just be there for those down days, if nothing else, just to be a shoulder to cry on.
I'm sorry to hear about your friends miscarriage. It sounds like she's being optimistic though. I'm sure she'll have good days and bad days. I'll keep her and her family in my prayers. I hope that she is able to conceive again quickly and that it goes better this time.
