L.F.
We had a nanny for the first year of my daughter's life and she also brought her son. He was about a year old and we thought it was great. I don't think this is crazy, I think you need to just find the right family.
Since I have my own son, now he grew a lot, so I was thinking
getting a babysitting job, so my son can have playmate and I can make some money too.
I registered some babysitter website, and actually got lot of offer.
but I coudn't get right one for me still, cause distance, too many kids, or schedule, and so on.
and now, I got one offer from same korean woman.
but she didn't expect that I'm gonna bring my kid there to babysit.
so I asked about this to korean married women's socailizing webpage,
and everybody told me I'm just ridiculous that I think I can bring my kid to babysit.
but all the offers that I got before, they never ask me that I'm gonna bring my kid.
they all already knew I will bring my kid, some people even liked that idea, so their kid and have playmates.
so is this really because I'm ridiculous? or just american and korean culture difference?
how do you think about this?
thanks for all caring responses. I ended up giving up this job. just for getting this job, I couldn't make my kid feel bad for any reason. like you all said, I'm still looking for good match. Thanks all.
We had a nanny for the first year of my daughter's life and she also brought her son. He was about a year old and we thought it was great. I don't think this is crazy, I think you need to just find the right family.
Depends on the family and your child....I had a babysitter that used to bring her daughter that is a year older than my oldest son's age..but I probably won't be using her again....Simply because she's my most expensive babysitter, I provide dinner for her and her daughter and that usually means every flavor of juice box and 2 chocolate milks, (might leave me in a bind for Monday lunch boxes), she not involved with the kids since her daughter is entertaining them and my son says her daughter isn't all that nice...Plus I don't think it's fair to my kids to have to go to bed when her daughter gets to stay up and watch TV..So that's why I don't like the situation....but I'm sure you will find a family that it will work for. Good Luck!
I don't think it's weird at all, personally. As long as the kids got along, I would see it as my kid having somebody to play with.
Maybe you could babysit in your own home?
Teri
A lot of moms choose to babysit to earn extra cash for the reason that they can still be with their child and earn income at the same time. Not strange at all. There are some who like it and others who don't. If she doesn't, well, then I guess she needs to keep looking.
I have a babysitter who sits for another family - they have a little girl my son's age. She asked if she could bring the other child over when there was a day/time and I said yes. Since then, the other child has come over several times and my son LOVES IT. It's good for socialization - they learn from each other. My son talks very well, and the little girl's speaking skills have improved. Keep looking - you'll find a good match.
It is very inappropriate to bring your child when you are being paid to babysit. Your job is to stay focused on the child you are caring for and, having your child there is a big distraction. It may be a cultural thing.
So long as the other mom knows you are bringing your kid, I don't see the problem. When I was growing up, I had after-school care with a family with 3 other kids, and many in-home daycares watch their own kids and other people's kids.
If you find the right family I don't think it's weird. My nanny has a son the same age as mine and she brings him along. I get a reduced rate because she has her kid and she gets to earn money but still spend time with her baby. It works for both of us. Now that our boys are a little older they like playing with each other and I think it is good for them. The key is making sure the kids are a good match and everything is laid out prior to you accepting the job.
I always took my children to the babysitter's house rather than having the sitter come to mine. If the sitter came to my house, then I would have to pay taxes on her salary. I think most people ignore this fact until they get in trouble with the IRS or Social Security.
The people who babysat my children usually had children of their own or grandchildren that they also babysat. It was pretty normal. If you babysit in your home, you need to check out the state and local regulations to see how many children you can keep before your home has to be licensed as a home child care provider.
I would never expect someone to come TO my home and bring their child for babysitting. However, it if is agreed upon before hand, it would be a different story. Have you thought about caring for children in your own home? That way you might be able to care for more than one and provide a good service to more than one person.
No, you're not ridiculous. My daughter is a babysitter on several sitter sites and often the job details not only allow a person to bring their child; but, is encouraged depending on the situation. This has no bearing on my daughter as she's only 21 and doesn't have children. But, I have seen the job postings that allow a sitter to bring their child. Just be certain when you reply to the job that you state that your son would need to accompany you and verify if the parents would be OK with that.
I would encourage you to just keep looking. The right position will come along.
Good Luck,
R. F.