I just had my fifth baby 10 days ago and I never had any kind of baby blues or anything in the past. But I'm experiencing baby blues or post partum depression now. I know it is because we have experienced such terrible losses and now my hubby's aunt is dying too (Just found out she will most likely pass away this week). My sister passed away two years ago, then my dad, then I had a miscarriage, hubby's grandfather, my good friend, and the list goes on (two great uncles and a great aunt also). This all in the last 2 weeks to 2 years. I know that is why I'm struggling but I don't know what to do about it. It definately is different dealing with this after having a baby then it was before I delivered. I'm hoping I will feel better soon but I'm pretty bummed that I'm going through this. I did have thyroid issues that never resolved during my entire pregnancy. I haven't had my thyroid checked yet so I'm sure this might be another reason...UGH!
Sometimes you just need medication to help you through the rough spots. You've had a lot of them. Go see someone!!! I had to and it helped a lot.
Make an appointment with your OB right away. He or she will be able to give you guidance as to how to deal with your post-partum depression.
Clearly something is wrong; don't let the stigma of mental health issues keep you from getting help. If you broke your leg, you wouldn't just sit at home and wait for it to get better - you'd go to the hospital or the doctor for proper treatment.
Best wishes - this happens quite a bit and it seems like you've been through a whole lot lately. Reach out for the support that is around you.
Jaimee,
I had a tough time after my last baby was born with a big break in between. I think we just forget how tough it is with a newborn, and then add on all the rest you are going through... Try to remember at all times that your family loves you and how much they need you. I know with older kids sometimes it does not seem that way, but they do need you. There is life after death, and God loves you and cares about what you are going through. Turn to Him and He will guide you.
Take the time to pamper yourself. Just relax, let the housework go (or tell your big kids to do it), and get better. Get out of the house for a short time each day if you can, because the warm sun and fresh air will help your mood improve. Also, share some of what you're feeling with your husband. Although he will likely not understand, sometimes just sharing your feelings helps.
If you find yourself thinking about hurting yourself or the baby or anyone, please, please get help from your doctor! That is when post-pardum depression gets really nasty. And try to remember that this WILL pass, you WILL get better, and you WILL be able to cope and move on, but that it all takes time.
I'll be praying for you. Love, C.
P.S. Please get your thyroid checked, as that could be a big part of this!
You may want to give it another week or so. Do try to concentrate on relaxing or finding alone time, though. Baby blues in the first few weeks is pretty normal and goes away by itself. If it continues longer, though, start looking into treatment.
Jaimee,
I like you have experienced GREAT losses during the time I was pregnant and right after with both my children. I have 2 and they are approx. 2 years apart. In the 4 years that I was pregnant and right after, I lost a good friend, both grandparents, my dad and my older sister. It was a terrible time, but I think God choose that time so that I was not totally consumed by sadness. I was able to focus on my new babies and they made me happy during an extremely sad time. I did handle things differently from after my first to my second and I learned that for me, I need to cocoon myself away and spend some time dealing with my sadness by myself. Only then was I able to enjoy and see the blessing that I have. God only gives us as much as we can handle so you must be a pretty strong cookie. Take time to heal yourself. God Bless.
