Hi A.,
Well it sounds like you've done the first step by admitting that you need to make changes for your family, but just remember that you gotta want to do it for yourself also, YOU are a very important person in YOUR life. Sometimes we get so caught up in our family lives that we forget about our own happiness, and I'm sure once you start losing weight for you, your family will start to notice that you are happy and they will be happy also. So really dig deep inside you to get that self-motivation for yourself. You really have to want it that bad. So here are some ideas for you,
1. Start out by cutting simple calories and saturated fats out of your normal meals. If you drink Soda, drink water instead, you'll find that you have more energy this way. Try to stay away from juice as much as you can also, but juice is better than soda (Orange Juice or Prune Juice would be best).
2. Try eating oatmeal or oat bran for breakfast. Oatmeal contains soluble fiber, which reduces your low-density lipoprotein (LDL), the "bad" cholesterol. Soluble fiber is also found in kidney beans, brussels sprouts, apples, pears, barley and prunes.
3. Walnuts and almonds are rich in polyunsaturated fatty acids so they keep your blood vessels healthy and elastic, but remember they are high in calories so don't overconsume them. So instead replace foods that you normally eat like cheese, lunch meat, or croutons in your salad (these are high in saturated fats)with nuts instead.
4. I'm not sure if you like fish, but fish have Omega-3 fatty acids which will lower your cholesterol. Here are some fish with really high levels of Omega-3 fatty acids, mackerel, salmon, albacore tuna, sardines, lake trout, herring and of course you should only bake or grill them in order for them to do you any good. If you don't like fish, flaxseeds, walnuts, canola oil are also high in Omega-3 fatty acids. Costco carries a flaxseed bread that is delicious.
5. Of course daily exercise is just as important for you as eating all those great things. You don't have to do really strenous excercise, try taking your son and your husband if possible for a walk at LEAST 1/2 hour a day. I know when I take my daughter for a walk she loves it. I don't know where you live, but taking a walk in the late afternoon to catch a sunset is one of my favorite things to do.
I really wish you well and luck with everything. I hope I have given you some great ideas to start with. Let me know how you are doing in the future. Just remember your health is the key to living a happy and long life.
GOOD LUCK AND I WISH THE BEST FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY
M.