Anger Issues - Saint Ignatius,MT

Hi--
I have a different take on the situation. Both of my boys and my husband have bad allergies (both food and environmental). Whenever the allergies get out of control they get uncontrollably angry. We have taken an alternative route to treating these allergies. In chinese medicine the liver represents anger. With allergies it is the liver that is most effected. When we calm the allergic response the anger also goes away.
To test my theory you can order quercetin and nettles (google it--you can order both in liquid and capsule form--be careful with the liquid as it will stain everything bright yellow). Give this to him a couple of times a day at first and see if the anger problems subside. This combination is a natural anti-histamine. It works similarly to benadryl, but has no side effects so it will not make him sleepy. Even if it is not an allergy it sounds as if he has a liver imbalance. You can try giving him milk thistle, an herb that will calm his liver. You can also try homeopathic medicine: the typical remedy for the liver is nux vomica.
Just so you have it, other symptoms of allergies include the following: dark and/or puffy circles under the eyes, any type of rash, hyperactivity, frequent constipation and/or diarrhea, stomach aches, sneezing, coughing. If he doesn't have these symptoms try the milk thistle first.
Incidentally, I have recommended this approach to quite a few others, and each time the child's behavior calmed down.
If you have further questions about what I've written here feel free to contact me.
Good luck!

Hi , I agree with Marley. See a pediatrician for a complete physical. There may be a reason he is so hostile. Also speak to his teacher. Does she notice anything unusual going on? My sons teacher kept telling me to have my son checked out,yet no other teacher did. I finally did and I found he had a mild form of ADD. This caused him to be aggressive because he was frustrated and didnt know what to do. He is in therapy now and is doing so much better. Hope this helps.

I would suggest that you make an appointment with a developmental Pediatrician. You can find these at children's Hospitals, and they will do a full evaluation that will give you reasurance, because it will miss nothing. If it is just behavioral, you will kow it for sure. My guess is that there is a reason for behavior that like you describe, and that it happens most at school is a bit more troublesome too.

I would try to use only positive intervention for now, and set him up for success instead of reacting to failure. It is quite posible that he is successful in controling his tantrums more often than you know, and yet, when he controls himself, it goes unoticed-in a kids perception-and he probably feels quite defeated by punishment when he can't control it. If it is something more than willful bad behavior (and I don't think that) then he really needs some help to be sucessful. Success breeds success.

When ever posible, tell him what you want him to do instead of what you want him to stop doing.

Make that appointment on Monday morning, I think you will be very heppy you did.

M.

I would say that there is obviously something wrong in his class to vent this badly. Have you spoken to his teacher or principal. Something isn't right here. Perhaps he should be put in a class that needs more help rather than a regular classroom. Perhaps the kids are making fun of him because he doesn't know how to do his work. Sounds like their are no P.A.'s in the school. If you can't do this perhaps see your Pediatrician/Physician and ask if he can take something medicinal that will help him relax during the school hours. I wish you lots of luck and do go to the school. I think thats where you should start prior to going to Dr. Perhaps your son doesn't want to talk about a certain thing in school but your will find out by going in and voicing your opinion. If you don't, the school thinks they can get away with whatever they want and thats not fair to your son. I sure do hope this works for you.

Kudos to him, for sticking up for himself when the other kid hit him first! I wouldn't scold him for defending himself.