Am I Obligated to Send Something?

Honestly - I wouldn't send something. Had you not seen it on FB you wouldn't even know anyway right?

Ewwww, how tacky! No way are you obligated to send anything, but if you do want to send something, I'd just do a simple card, no gift.

Is there more to the text exchange that you left out?

Did you ask "where may I send a card?"

Or, did she just outright say "you can send a card here______"?

Cause wow - if the latter - wow!

I wouldn't send anything with the card, unless you feel obligated to your friend to do so. But if a friend made me feel obligated to send her son (whom I didn't like and didn't talk to) a gift, then I would rethink the whole relationship.

Umm..I am not sure I would even bother sending a card to be honest. I think that was awfully presumptuous of her to assume that's why you mentioned it in the first place. But, maybe I'm just mean.

Seriously?? I say, heck no! That is so presumptuous of her to tell you to send a card. She could have/should have said something like "It's a small wedding, so they're only inviting close family and friends" and left it up to you to decide whether or not to send something.

You are not obligated to send a gift. A card would be appropriate, telling the young man that you''re a friend of his mama's and wishing him and his bride all the best. It may not make a big difference to the bride and groom, but your friend might take it as a kindness.

I don't think I would send anything. JMO

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I would send a card and that it all.

Personally, I'm not even sure I'd send a card. I definately wouldn't send a card with money or a gift.

The fact that you're friends with the boy's mother makes this a little touchy. She may not know that you're not invited to the wedding, or there could be a financial issue, or something else going on. Normally I would say that since you're not invited to the wedding then don't give them a gift or card with a money gift.

However... for the sake of your friendship with the boy's mother I would consider a card with a gift certificate perhaps to a nice restaurant or to Pottery Barn or something for $35. If this is a shotgun wedding ;-) then give them a cash gift or a gift certificate to Babies R Us. ]:))

One of my favorite wedding gifts was from my Godmother to the restaurant we got engaged in for $100 and we were able to get something like two or three dates out of it. But she attended my showers, my wedding, and we're very close.

You are not obligated to send anything but for your friend it may be nice to send a card.

No, you do NOT need to send a card or a gift.

Definitely not. Yes if you want to send a card sure. But I think you did just says congrads to the mom on facebook and thats enough.

You don't need to send anything.

I think it's a very presumptuous & rude to tell someone who's NOT invited to the wedding or reception, where to send a "card" (aka money/gift) for the couple. What, you're not good enough to invite, but your money is good enough? I don't know... it just leaves a really bad taste in my mouth.

Send a card if you wish, but I say that would be the maximum. I definitely wouldn't be sending a gift.

I never feel "obligated" to do anything I don't want to anymore! I would just send a card as she suggested (although I'm sure she was also hinting at some cash or gift card in it!). Good luck!

Maybe she had gotten so many texts from people saying Congrats and I need an address to send stuff that she just assumed.

If you feel like sending a card, go ahead, but I would say you're not obligated to.