Almost 3 Yo Son Keeps Grabbing My Breast, Help

If you get him a lovee (blanket, toy, whatever) maybe you should sleep with it for a few days first so it smells like you and that may help to soothe him, especially at night.

You need to explain to him that your boobs are part of your body and that you don't want him to touch this. This might even be a good segway into teaching him about "good and bad" touching from other people.
Allow him to transfer his attachment to another "lovey." A stuffed animal or a blanket might be a good replacement.

A rubber breast??? First thought, he might bite a piece of it and choke. Second thought, do you want your ten year old boy to have a rubber breast? When would it end?? Stick with a blanket or animal.

Haha, too funny, been through that myself years ago! Sounds like the "feel" of the soft, warm boob is a comfort/soother for him. Maybe you could go buy one of the rubber boob inserts in the lingerie dept and let it be his "special breast" to sleep with? Just a thought. I'm sure if you keep telling him no, eventually it will wear off... but I do think the rubber boob just might solve your problem. At night you might run it under warm water to get it warm for him and then just let him hold it till he falls to sleep. I'd make sure it's just something you keep at home for nap and bedtime.... people would probably find it odd if it ends up in his backpack, lol.

My daughter likes to pinch the little bit of chub under my arm while she nurses. I suspect that long after she has been weaned, she will still want to touch "the pinch" as she calls it. I am still nursing and my daughter will be 3 at the end of October. Sometimes I think I am over it, but then last week she caught a cold and it was such a wonderful relief to know I could help her fight it with my immunities. She is a healthy, healthy child. Tall and strong. Never would have imagined before I birthed her that I would nurse so long! But her pediatrician is very pro-extended nursing. He reminds me any time we come for a check-up how much money we have saved in health costs... as she has never had an ear infection, or any infection for that matter. So good for you for nursing him so long. They are still not so long out of our bodies, not ready to relinquish us to ourselves just yet. Our body and their bodies are still very much attached. I suppose with time this will fade. Not sure that is an "answer" but maybe nice to know that there are others out there...

Give him a Lovey to sleep with or cuddle with.
My son, has a stuffed cow... and he 'rubs/twiddles' its ears... like he would with a 'nipple.'
But he's gradually grown out of it.

Or, my son would twiddle the nipple of a bottle.

Just give your son, something else to cuddle and soothe with.

I have no suggestions aside from telling him there's a monster in your bra that will make him eat spinach. At 11mo I got mastitis for the 3rd time since my son was born and ended up in bed for 3 days. Doc thought I'd have to go into hospital because they couldn't get rid of infection. I continued to pump, crying the whole time, so I wouldn't lose my milk. When it was all said and done I was never able to product milk after that. So.....my son hasn't nursed in 3 years and he'll still grab my breast or 'pet' it which is really cute when we're snuggling on the couch. Not so cute in the grocery store!! I try to keep it light and tell him that 'those are mine now!' I also will distract him with kisses. If he's going for a pat I'll say give mommy a kiss. He touches my breast to feel a bond and obviously kissing is bonding so it takes the place. Every time he's done this when we are out and I've reacted like it was a big deal he just did it more and more and more with a little grin on his face!

I don't think I can help, but maybe I can give you an idea of what he's thinking. Kids that age have no sense of privacy or decorum. This makes as much sense to him as if you'd asked him to never hold your hand again or never sit on your lap again. He doesn't "get it."

The only way you can approach this is by talking about the stuff we usually do to protect our kids from inappropriate touching or being molested, or from being physically overwhelming with a younger child, or being too clingy and underfoot. Instead of focusing on why your breasts are now off limits, when they never were before, talk about how each person "owns" their own body, and each person needs to know that they can say "no" to any touches they don't want. Relate it to something like a child in his play group wanting to hug him, when all he wants to do is go down the slide. It's not that hugging is bad, it's that each person needs to be able to choose what happens to their own body (unless there's a medical need that overrides that). Maybe that will make more sense to him.

As he gets older, this will be less and less of an issue. Hang in there!

My son was the same way... but he also wanted to be a "big boy." So, I told him that big boys don't need mommy's milk anymore, and mommy's breasts are mommy's (just like his body is his). He needed a few reminders here and there, but he is done with it now. It's hard for them to leave the comfort of mommy's side, and will look for any way to comfort themselves. Maybe, if I were you, I'd reassure your son by giving him more hugs, more back rubs as he falls asleep. And if he co-sleeps with you, just keep removing his hand from your breasts, and he will eventually get it.

best wishes.

My son is beginning to do that to me now too. He nurse from one nipple and grabs the next as comfort. I am trying to wean right now (not much luck of course), but I am glad you are telling me what to possibly expect, even though I don't plan to nurse much longer.

I feel old habits are hard to die and every now and then even though he is done with it, he gets the comfort urge when something is happening in his tiny world - being scared, hungry, need attention etc. Maybe if you try meeting the need with a substitute he might get it. I don't think he is doing it intentionally to annoy you as embarrassing at it seems.

HI there,
Wow, 28 months? If you really want him to stop, then why don't you give him consequences for his actions? If he tries, then tell him he will need to go back into his bed.......and follow through. Give him one or two warnings, then do it. If your not in bed, then tell him you are going to get up and walk away. Tell him you no longer like it, and it bothers you.
You have to be consistant or he won't get the point. You can't be "oh, I'll just let him do it just this once." Let him do it, or don't. Period
I had to do this with my daughter, but her obsession was my hair.
Good luck!!

You nursed him beyond really what he needed, most baby's can use a sippy cup by six months old, which you can put breast milk in. I have counceled many young women about breast feeding baby's who are way old enough to use a cup, or bottle. The bottle can be thrown away at a year old the breast is always there, I was at target one evening and while we were in line this little boy was digging in his moms shirt trying to get to her breast, everyone was in line were just shaking their heads in disbelief. Breast milk can go in a bottle. I know many women believe that only breast feeding bonds you with your baby so not true, i bonded with all 3 of mine, and I bond with all the babys I feed in my daycare. Now you need to break him of this and soon, and if he his grabbing your boobs in your bed, he should not be in there, that's your husband's job. This is not healthy behavior. I can't believe the responses i have read, I'm am like Really? Connie