Aggressive Behavior and Sleeping Through the Night

We used the ferber method for sleep training it worked for us. Our ped had also said that once they reach 12 lbs or 3 months old they no longer "need" to feed at night.

Our DS started pitching fits at around that age. I think his memory got stronger and his mobility got stronger. He knew he had the will and ability to walk back to that broom and ask for it again.
1. we pick our battles, if safety isn't a concern, we try again for a redirect.
2. we remove the object of desire and let him pitch a tantrum. We ignore the tantrum.
3. if we can't remove the object, we stand our boy in the corner for a count of 10. If he goes back to the same thing, we repeat. might take as many as 3 goes at standing at the corner for him to realize that a thing is off limits.

Be patient. and be sympathetic. Remember, it is hard work being a baby.

Good luck to you and yours,
F. B.

At about 1 years old, my kids went through what is called "night terrors." It is a common normal developmental thing.
Look it up online.
If this is what it is, you can't do anything about it.
Just soothe him etc. Or if he is going through a growth-spurt, well my kids still... needed feedings. I woke. They grew like weeds and had GINORMOUS appetites, then.

Or he could be teething.
And/or going through all of these developmental changes, ALL at the SAME time. Which is very common, and it is not easy for them either.

No baby/child, fits into a perfect routine, as your Pediatrician said.
Go by YOUR child's cues and needs.
They are young for only a short time.

If your son is average weight and height I would say the late night snack/feeding/whatever is a bad habit to get into. I breastfed both of my children. My first for 12 months and my second for 15 months. The second one was longer because I prolonged it. She was ready for 100% people food, I just knew she was my last. I had started back to work really soon with her and felt guilty. Sorry I got off track. I believe the doctor is right. You both need to learn or relearn how to sleep through the night. My first caught on really fast. He did wake up by 6 every morning for breakfast though. He is still the early one of the family. It took my daughter a little while longer to catch on. She is the one I noticed would only nurse for about 5 minutes. She was doing it for comfort more than nutrition which is what it sounds like your son is doing. If he was truly hungry, he would nurse longer and not just go to sleep or play after 5 minutes. He is just used to the closeness.

We had a pretty strict schedule with our kids once they past the breastfeeding stage. Kids had breakfast, nap (optional), snack, lunch, nap, snack, dinner and then bed by 8. Like I said, they always got up by 6 so they were ready for bed and frankly so was I. They are 7 and 5 now. They both are great sleepers, eat when it is time to eat and play when it is time to play. Of course, they have their days when they don't want to cooperate, but for most part they are on a good schedule.

I can't help with the aggressive behavior. My kids are both pretty laid back.

When my boys would wake at night I would wait 5 minutes before going in to comfort (unless it was a full out cry, I would only wait for light crying or fussing). Most of the time they went back to sleep on their own before that time was up, but if I did go in I would comfort without food, or even taking them out of the crib. I would lay them down and sing and rub their tummy or back until they calmed, and then leave. If they started fussing agains I would wait another 5 minutes, but never more then 5. I never had to go in more than once. For the most part though my boys were both sleeping through the night on their own with no training by 3 months because my doc told me from the start that after the first couple of months they did not need to eat at night and that most older babies wake to feed only because that is what they have been trained to do. Good luck.