J.,
I would speak to the school about separating him from the class.
thats not appropriate, they are singling him out,
If they believe he has ADHD then they need to provide extra help for him, give him some assistance,
for my son who Also has ADHD they asked me to use medication, I SAID NO, and they assigned a tutor to help him ONE on ONE
which helped him dramatically, I didn't want my child isolated from the group, afterall I felt how could he learn what was " NORMAL" if he wasn't surrounded by " Normalcy"
It was a constant fight with the school system, ( PUBLIC)
But eventually they get on board,
You need to call and stop in for just about everything but it helps,
When a teacher calls to complain about my child being talkative, I say OK, I see, and then say " SO WHAT ARE YOUR PLANS" they say for what, I say "To help him focus and be less talkative"
they usually say well we have been trying this or that,
and I say" Well it seems it isn't working so what will we try NOW"
You need to be more direct and forceful, and take your childs side, and see it from your childs perspective.
I have also found that GIFTS to teachers will make them less likely to complain and more likely to be PROACTIVE and PRO-your CHILD. they offer more praise and are more patient, and try and reach out MORE.
Tutoring is very helpful, but costly,
My child does well, with structure, the more strict the teacher the better he does.
movements can be distracting but pay attention, if he can sit thru video games and TV shows , he can sit thru class,
Teachers that MOVE alot , use hand movements and body movements keep your childs attention longer.Check the teachers enthusiasm, if they aren't motivated , they will not inspire your child.
( there is a special technique used I forget the name but its generally used for primary AGE children)
I really would not be so fast to start medications, nor Diagnos him,
BUt i would speak to the school, and make SURE they understand your position,and PUSH them to behave better with your child.
Isolating him from the group is a PUNISHMENT, NOT helpful in anyway,
If they feel he has ADHD then they need to take extra steps to help him , NOT hurt him.
Fight with them mom, be on your kids side,
My son was the same way, and he received second honors in his class, he has a right to be treated fairly and respectfully,
and its their job to teach him, even if he gets on their last nerves.
Good luck MOM!!
M