Hi S.,
I am a mother, who 9 years ago was faced with a similar situation......97% of Downs with our second child......doing an Amnio was the only way to know for sure........they even told us if our baby was Downs, we would be given the opportunity to terminate the prenancy (cry, cry, cry).........
So.......of course we scheduled the Amnio asap........it wasn't that comfortable but it's a quick procedure, and we considered it well worth it. I mean 97% Downs!!!!! The chance were pretty good I was carrying a precious Down's baby........
After the Amnio, they told us they would call us in 3-4 WEEKS to allow for the genetics (or whatever) to grow to confirm (or not) if our son had Downs. 3-4 weeks is a LONG time to wait for results like that, and there were ALOT of emotions going through our hearts during the 1st week of waiting........all of course confirmed that no matter what the results were, we were keeping our baby. I mean, afterall, God would never give us something we couldn't handle, right? (cry, cry, cry.....)
3 1/2 weeks later a nurse called with the results.........very routine for her....."HI N., the results are fine.........have a nice day!" Gasp! I was speechless, and asked her to please be more specific....."what do you mean by 'fine' ?" Obviously 'fine' meant that our son did not have Downs.
S., as I'm typing this response to you, the emotions of anxiety, worry, and sadness are all coming back to me. I always said, "I don't even wish this situation my husband's ex-wife!" I am truly sorry for what you're going through.
Do the test.......you don't want to ever feel like "I should've done the test" throughout the rest of your pregnancy.......get it overwith.......after 9 years, I'm sure the technology has changed so much, so they are probably better at the whole process........
Whatever the results........you will make the best decision for you and your husband......whatever you decide you won't be judged on.........nobody can comprehend the emotions that you go through during a situation like this, and nobody knows how they would react or what they would choose to do unless they are in this EXACT situation.........
I will pray for you and your baby.........in the end, it will all be ok......I mean, "God doesn't give us anything we can't handle, right?"
I'll be thinking of you......try to stay strong.
Oh yeah......my "baby" started 3rd grade this year......with new glasses and new front teeth :O) He has a Down's syndrome classmate in the class next door.......I look at life differently since that whole situation. I'm sure you will too :o)
~N. :o)