A Child in My Sons Class Held My Sons Hand Against His Private Area

You feel a need to be there when the school tells the kids involved to keep their hands to themselves?
Sorry but it is over reacting.
What you tell your son is that everyone really should keep their hands (and feet and all their body parts) to themselves and he did do the right thing about telling the teacher about it and you are proud of him for doing the right thing.
If this other boy is always trying to force other kids to do anything it's probably a good idea for your kid to spend more time with other kids - and I'd tell the teacher that.

They did the right thing. They took both kids aside to talk about it. Do you really want a call every time this sort of thing happens? This should be handled by professionals at the moment, not set aside until parents can be reached by phone, pulled out of work or wherever they are, and have the kids sit in separate offices or conference rooms until someone arrives. Your son was not facing a medical emergency. It would be much worse, and much more difficult to get to the details immediately, if parents were in the room interrupting and defending and otherwise getting the kids riled up. I am not sure why it took more than 3 hours after the close of school after a lunchtime incident for you to be informed. I'd calmly take that up with the administration and find out any more details about how they handle these sorts of things. While I'm not defending the other child in any way, you must understand that these sorts of things go on all the time among young kids, and not always with sinister intent. Inappropriate, absolutely. Panic time, not so much. Just commend your child for telling the teacher.

Overreacting

The teachers did the right thing to address it immediately.

What good would it do for you to be there while they were talking to your son?

It is likely an isolated incident and was not meant in a harmful way. By blowing it out of proportion, the children involved are likely left more confused and believe they have done something terrible.

It is Kindergarten and kids get curious. You have to address it on the spot to stop it and not make a big deal. I am in the classroom a lot and you do a lot of redirection without calling out a specific child because many of them do touch themselves inappropriately at times in the classroom. It is normal and the teachers did the right thing.

If it makes you feel better... just have a private chat with the teacher.

I think the school did a good job handling it right away. They probably told the other boy to keep his hands to himself and he is not to do that again. They probably got your son's side of the story. I might consider meeting with the teacher to find out exactly what they said to the kids and if they will be keeping an eye on this other boy. I would also praise my son for telling an adult right away and encourage him to always tell and adult if something inappropriate happens again. I'd encourage him to play with other kids.

you're over reacting. They handled the situation.

This is NOT a police interrogation. It's the school asking what happened. You don't need to be there for that.

Just in case - here's the original post
During line up yesterday at my sons school after lunch a six year old little boy that is in his class forced my sons hand agains his private area on the outside of his clothes and wouldn’t let him take his hand away. My son did the right thing and told the teacher about it. The issue I am having is that one of the other teachers in the office immediately pulled him from class as well as the other boy to talk to him about it. I was not informed until three hours after school was let out. I feel I should have been there if they were talking to my son about a subject such as this. My son is 5 years old and the other child is 6. Am I overreacting? How should I handle this from here? Thanks for the advice this is kindergarten and I know things like this can happen.

Welcome to mamapedia, T. B!

Yes. You are totally overreacting!! I get wanting to be there, but really? WHY? What did you think they were going to do? Make them re-enact the issue?

You don't even need to contact the teacher. You just need to tell your son he did a great job by telling an adult and handling the situation.

I once had a call from the kindergarten teacher that my son had grabbed his privates while waiting to use the washroom. We had to have a chat with our child about it when we got home. He was oblivious as to why this would be a concern. They just don't get it.

A friend of mine told me something similar had happened to her child in kindergarten. Your story is a bit more involved. However, it was dealt with. I think that by not drawing attention to it was likely smart. I think you can talk to your child at home about it. I'm sure they just talked about keeping hands to themselves in school, etc. and didn't get too involved, and left that to you parents.

I do think following up with the teacher is likely a good idea, just in case there's any more contact between the kids - if you're concerned. You can just ask that she keep an eye on it. Sometimes when two boys are just getting up to mischief even parents will ask that teachers separate them in kindergarten, so making this request wouldn't be out of line.

yes. over reacting. situations like this my child's school would call the parents AFTER they handle it.
you could let school know that you prefer to be called about this type of situation within the hour of it occurring. but then you risk being the parent that school dreads dealing with. i would just let it go.
talk to your child about his classmates and encourage him to interact more with the other kids.
(when my daughter informed me a boy in her class said some inappropriate things to her i immediately told her that she should stay away from the boy, to play with the other kids. i then talked to her teacher about it and let her handle it from there. )

I agree to a certain point. They needed to address the issue right away, they could have found that the boy is being sexually abused or something and he might not have said anything if parents were there. So you being there could have kept the boy from talking or something plus he's a minor too. You wouldn't have been able to be in the room while he was in there at all. Since your boy wasn't the offender he wasn't in trouble. I don't think they did anything wrong.

You do need to let the school handle school things at school overall but in this case I would have wanted to know as soon as there was time. The teacher could have given you a report sooner.