OK so after all of my being annoyed that she tries to come in my bed to cuddle each night I got slapped in the face with a dose of reality that shes growing up fast today. A few weeks ago I dropped her at before care and she ran to give M. a 2nd hug and kiss and walk M. to the door like she always did and a stinking 2nd grader (yea I'm prejudiced against all 2nd graders now=) ) made a comment about it and the teacher commented how sweet it was and that she was in K and still little and allowed to. Well ever since when I go to kiss her goodbye on the forehead she backs away. I asked before if she'd rather M. not and she never said no, well today I got the "hugs are ok, but no more kisses please" I listened and accepted this but a slight part of M. wants to trip that stinkin 2nd grader...she stole my morning kisses! BRAT=) It J. made M. realize to hug her extra tight and steal all of the cuddling I can at home, because before I know it she'll be that stinking 2nd grader lecturing other kids on kissing parents!
Anyway I'm not going to complain about the late night visits until the sting wears off from this=) Granted at 4am I probably won't care much about the kissing, but in my awake state right now I have plans to not be so annoyed when she tries to sneak in at 3am to cuddle.
So anyway as for the question
Do your kids let you kiss them or hug them in front of friends?
if not when did it stop?
I wish I could've afforded an extra year of pre-k and let her stay little J. a year longer=)
the fun thing is that often after the 'embarrassed by my parents' phase wears off, you get them back!
my boys only objected to motherly PDAs for a brief while. by their teens they were fine with it again. now that they're in their 20s they're more likely to hug or kiss M. in public!
:) khairete
S.
My kids, who are 5, almost 7, and almost 9 all still let M. hug and kiss them. I pray that never changes.
My daughter is 7 and I still slobber all over her before the bus. Lol. There is even a quite mean 2nd grader on her bus that still kisses her mom.
Kids can be so mean!
I still kiss my parents goodbye!!
We got to the point where we did the kiss and hug at home before we got in the car, since I did not walk her to the classroom door.
Worked great all the way to now.. She will graduate from College this May!
Last summer while she interned, We hugged and kissed before she got in the car, since, I was J. dropping her off quickly.
There is hope.. I know quite a few kids, boys, young men.. That still hug and kiss, their parents in public.. Even in middle school and high school. I have seen it and I thin it is wonderful.. No one says a thing, because I think they are a bit jealous..
My son went through that in K4. Except it was all on his own, nobody said anything to make him feel funny. Where he went to preschool, we were supposed to pull up to the portico and a teacher opened the door and "helped" them out of the car and ushered them into the building (there were others inside the doors to assist beyond that point, if needed). It was a very small private preschool.
One day, he asked M. not to kiss him at the door anymore, because he didn't want anyone seeing (his teacher, I think... a little crush maybe?) Anyway, there was usually a few cars in line that we had to wait in, and he asked if I would kiss him BEFORE we got to the door.
So maybe, since your daughter may still LIKE the kisses, but not like the attention about it from others, you might ask her if she would like you to give her her morning kiss before you get there. ?
My son is 13 now and still LOVES big hugs. He is very affectionate. But he prefers to only hug when no one else (in public) can see. ;)
____@____.com 2nd graders! You're too funny. My r and 6 yr old still want thier kiss. I'm not ready for my kids to be ambaressed of M.! On the upside, my 19 yr old has come out the other side of it. She went from, "not in front of my friends" to hugging M. everytime she sees M.. At least you have that to look forward to!
Awwww mama! I dread this day and hope it never comes. My heart breaks for you. I am so attached to my hugs, kisses and cuddles that I feel like I'd be lost without them. It's because we are in love! Don't worry, it will come in phases. Good luck
boo hoo hooo! Damn 2nd grader! LOL!
My 4 yo and 5 yo hug and kiss M. in front of everyone still and like it. THANK GOD!
My baby boy is 11 months old and a total love bug. I hope he stays like this for YEARS!!!
Makes M. cry J. thinking about it...
Hugs to you! I feel your pain. I was "kicked off" the playground before/after school because "only babies have their mom's wait til the bell". Held it together til I got back to the car and then cried like a baby!!!!!!
One thing that we did - we started a "code". So come up with something that "means" here's your kiss and I love you. Like tug twice on her backpack or tuck her hair behind her ear. Something that will be specific, but not embarassing and you both know what is really going on, but the rest of the world doesn't.
We also did the kiss and hug before we left the house in the morning, rather than at school.
However, your paradigm shift of "now I won't be so annoyed by the cuddles" is a really good one!!!!
I had that when I wanted to her walk and then when she started walking I wanted her to stay put!!!!!! You'll have a gazillion more of them - they're good perspective shifts to have :-)
ETA - oh, you'll get back some affection in a couple years. They go in waves. I think like 2nd or 3rd grade they're ok, but then in middle school they'd prefer to move to tim-buck-too.
Oh I know how you feel. My almost 7 year old has never been the affectionate type. She has aspergers and has never given M. hugs or kisses and doesn't like M. to hug or kiss her either, so I really appreciate all the attention my 4 yo still lavishes on M.. He is so huggable and kissable. I hope it never ends. I dread the day when he stops. And I would want to kick any childs butt that told my child not to hug or kiss M.. I do miss not having affection from my daughter tho. Especially now as she gets older and i realize the chances of it are dwindling quickly. Enjoy what you get while you can I guess.
Tell your daughter that little girl (2nd grader) is wrong. My daughter (5 and a half) still lets M. hug and kiss her when I drop her off and she still likes to sleep with M. (not dad he snores loudly).
One day this will change, as she gets older she won't care who sees.
My ten year old son still gives M. my kiss and hug when I drop him off at school and tells M. he loves M.. If he sees one of his friends looking, he kind of backs off a bit but still gives M. my kiss. I guess that I am pretty lucky that he is still doing it. I hope it lasts at least a little longer "sigh". Don't you hate this part of them growing up? Sorry about what your going through....Damn that second grader! Lol
J. this past summer my now 10 year old son started pushing M. away. He will still give M. a hug and let M. give him a kiss on the forward while in doors at home. He was always my little cuddler and I still love the days when we are watching a movie and he curls up with M.. In a couple years i am sure that even those will disappear so I am taking ever chance I can to let my little boy stay little.
My 5 year old daughter is in her final year of preschool still and loves to give kisses and hugs. Her and her dad have this thing to where she will ask for a kiss and he gives her a kiss and she wipes it away and says eww. They will do this for a good half hour or so but with my husband looks forward to it after his 12 plus hour days.
My oldest is in 1st grade and J. denied M. to hold her hand about a month ago (then proceeded to only allow daddy to hold it) while we walked into her school for a fun festival. However, I drop her off every morning to her friends house and she gives a hug and kiss every time. So, it hasn't completely hit her yet but there are moments. Most of the time she is not afraid to be different and I J. love that about her. My youngest is in preschool and she of course has no problems yet, either.
But I know my niece stopped doing all this in preschool with her mom and my oldest daughters friend is the same. Very much concerned about what others think of them.
