K., when my husband turned 40, I had to make a big deal about it as well. I am a year older so when I turned 40, that whole next year I heard about how I was 40 & he was still 39. At the time, we were on a strick budget, and I wanted to throw him an " Over the Hill" party. My Aunt & sister helped me, we went to the dollar store & bought everything we could think of BLACK. For the food, I supplied the meat (BBQ), & asked the guest to bring a dish. My aunt made him a graveyard cake, I bought him a cane at the dollar store, & any other little gift for "old age". Party City has some great over the hill stuff that is NOT expensive. I ended up having to tell my husband about the party, because I could not afford to pay someone to BBQ, (hes the BBQ man). After the meat was put on, he went to his moms house to clean up, & allow us to decorate. When he came back home, he was so surprised by the decorations, & what everyone had done for "HIS" bday, he will still talk about it. The day was great, everyone had a great time, & we were not out a lot of money, and the best part........my husband felt like a king that day. Good Luck, T.