2 Steps Forward, 10 Steps Back!

right now - it sounds like it's becoming a habit for her...not just because she's been sick - but because now she isn't sick and it's habit....

if she is NOT sleeping next to you - then baby - put her in her own crib!! YOU CAN DO IT!!! I promise - the first couple of days will be hard - but YOU CAN DO IT!!! Be consistent...if she needs something - okay - great - if it's just to be held - then comfort her for a few minutes and put her back INTO the crib....

It's TOTALLY possible that the reason she's not sleeping with you or near you is the noise (maybe you or hubby snores...) or your room is hot, but really - she needs to be in her own bed!! YOU CAN DO IT!!!

This too will pass, believe it or not. A six-month-old is still a little baby and benefits from having you nearby, especially if she's been feeling unwell a lot recently. Our culture tends to want to push babies into sleeping all alone much sooner than the rest of the world and human history consider normal and healthy, so there's nothing wrong with keeping her near you if it feels right! You will get your bed and room back soon enough, and the three-year-old will get used to sleeping through some noise (not to mention that the baby will wake up and cry less as time passes, too.)

I know it seems like forever...I was in the same boat with my second baby. We opted to keep #2 in our room until she slept though pretty well, now our two cherubs share a room, go to bed and wake up around the same time and have a blast entertaining each other in there...and hubby and I are alone again, glad to have invested a few more months in a happily sleeping baby.

Good luck, have patience, and enjoy!

The hardest part of motherhood!!! I promise this will pass.Fact is, she needs you right now. You can have quiet sex with a 6mo old in the room!

I had twin girls that at first I tried having them sleep in the same room with us in bassinets but they hated the bassinets. They slept soooooo much better in their cribs. They were in their own cribs at 2-3 weeks old. I felt awful putting them in there at first but it was the only way the entire house got any kind of good solid sleep. The only thing I can say is when they were sick-they were in my bed and it sounds like the little one has had her share. It's difficult to make the transition and so much easier to just give in but kids sleeping in my bed was my number one thing I swore I would never do and I was determined to stick to that. The twins are 8 now and like I said unless they were sick they slept in their own beds!
As far as the sex goes......I think I understand you just don't feel comfortable or relaxed enough to do it because its almost like the dog staring down at you from the bottom of the bed-lol! It's just not comfortable to some people but others have no issue with this. It's a personal issue and either you can try to relax and feel comfortable with it because you and your husband can STILL have sex with her in the room-I swear it won't damage her for life. If you just don't feel comfortable then move elsewhere in the house.....heck go to the closet if you have too-lol! There are other means but if you mean you are too exhausted I understand that too believe me but just remember this: This too shall pass and when it does you tend to forget all about it-well at least until the next one come along-lol!

My son slept in our bed until he was 2. When he finally went to a big boy bed it was a transition but it wasn't as hard as I thought he even seemed to sleep better once he got used to it. As far as sex you can quietly do it in the same room. My midwife said that until they are toddlers they don't know and won't be damaged by it. That said if you are ready for your to back just do it. You will sleep less temporarily but whn the transition is done everyone will sleep better. Maybe you could start your daughter in her crib early in the night and if she wakes up bring her into your room so you can all get some sleep. Slowly start moving the time back so if she.wakes up after say 2 then you bring her into your bed before that put her back in her bed. Then 3 4 etc. Eventually she will sleep the whole night in her bed. Good luck and know this is temporary. When I look back now some of my favorite timed were sleeping all cuddled up with my baby.

That's a lot of illness in 6 short months. I would agree that keeping her close is a good idea for a while longer. You can do a modified sleep training routine with her in your room - just move the play pen as far away from the bed as possible, and let her learn how to self-soothe at least some of the time.

Try the Dr. Ferber Sleep training book, both for your 6 month old, and for your 3 month old. They will learn how to self soothe and get back to sleep.