so i just called my sitter to check on my one yr old she said hes been sitting in the high chair for the past hr and half eating lunch.!!!!!!!!!!!!! first of all it takes my son 15 mins to eat and then hes out of the chair. that is too long for a one yr old to be in a chair!
am i wrong or no? i said to her i dont want him in a highchair for that long she didnt know what to say to me and it was left at that but when i go get him i need to say something. right!?
and last thing my BF is a hard worker not only at home but at his work where he works 6 days a week. and get sunday off only. well since my son is born i never got to sleep in on a weekend its always him cuz hes so tired ya know. should i leave him go since he only gets one day off a week or ask to share it with me??? split it up ya know??
but on other issue im so pissed about the chair!
A., personally I would HATE working for you. I hate to be rude, but everyone here has told you that if you aren't happy, then take him elsewhere. You are likely driving this lady nuts. RELAX!
Oh my Lord, just take the child out of the place already. Are you the same one that complains about the sitter?
I would trade off with your boyfriend with sleeping in. If not every other Sunday then at least once a month.
K. B
mom to 5 including triplets
Hi, A.:
Are you displacing your anger from your BF to your babysitter?
How come you call the babysitter all the time. Does she have your number to call you in case of an emergency.
Do you do any fun things with your baby when you are off?
It sounds like you don't have enough to keep your mind occupied.
Just a thought.
D.
While I do think an hour and a half is a long time to be in the chair, I've never really noticed or kept track of how long they are in there on days they are playing and we are busy doing other things in the kitchen. We often have our youngest children play and eat and drink in the chair so that they don't get run over by older kids. Then when we get the older kids sitting and doing lessons the babies can play in a safer environment.
Are you the same girl that just keeps complaining about your provider on here? If so I wonder why in the world you are waiting to just find a new provider already. I can't wait to see how many providers you burn through before you find Miss perfect. If you aren't the same girl, forget what I just said LOL! :)
Your child is fine in the high chair - I wouldn't say anything about it.
As for the sleeping in - can you just take a nap?? That is how we split it up.
I wouldn't be worried about the highchair thing. Was he screaming in the backround? If he is taking his time eating then what's the big deal. I would have loved one of my kids to sit for that long at that age. My husband works a ton and I also never sleep in. Your bf is working 6 days I think he deserves to sleep in. Couldn't you take a nap during the day? That's what I do. I never let my kids wake their dad up either he deserves to sleep in since he is up at 5am everyday and doesn't get home until 630pm usually. Sometimes he gets up early and I sleep in or what you could call sleeping in since my kids will come in and ask me like 50?'s..lol
it's one thing to be concerned about the chair. i would be too, and i'd say something. you did that. beyond that, being 'pissed' is probably an over-reaction. do you have other concerns about the sitter, or is she fine other than this? if it's a pattern of things you don't like, you should look around for another sitter. if this is the only thing that bothers you, relax. you've made your preferences known, and haven't yet had enough time to see if she will honor your preference.
there are compromises about the sleeping issue, as krista says. it's very hard to be a young mom with no sleep, but hardworking dads get under-represented in this forum sometimes. 6 days a week is a lot. i'd let him sleep, but see if he can take baby for 2 or 3 hours on that day off and let you nap, or do something else that's just for you.
khairete
S.
Relax about the high chair thing. The odds are pretty good that he's playing and eating at the same time and ALL children will do things differently with a different adult. No, don't say something. You already did and adding to it will make an issue out of something that really isn't an "issue".
As for the sleeping in... talk to him about it if you haven't already. In our house (both work too), my husband gets most of the "sleep in" time on the weekends, but in return I get "quiet time" when our son naps. My husband can't nap, so he sleeps in and I close my eyes for an hour on Sunday afternoons. Find something that works- it's not "all or nothing".
Definately say something to the sitter. Its obvious that she doing other things while she is supposed to be caring for your son. Your know your child better than anyone. Since she didn't have a solid answer as to why he was sitter there so long, she guilty of something. Talk to her immediately. As far as your huaband is concerned, yeah he works hard. A lot of men don't even do that. Just explain to him that you work hard too and would like it if he stepped up to the plate every once and a while to help out the kids. Communication is the key. It won't hurt to express yourself. The one thing we as individuals can't do is read mines. He'll never no who you feel if you don't tell him.
Maybe you should ask her why he was in the highchair for that long. Does she watch other kids too? Maybe your child was just distracted by the other kids and was taking a long time to finish. Sometimes my son will gobble up his lunch and sometimes he will sit there and pull everything apart and eat it one little piece at a time.
You already addressed the high chair concern over the phone with your sitter. She knows it bothered you and didn't even defend it, so it's doubtful she'll do it again. Let it go and trust her. It's possible that he was just futzing around with his food and playing with it while eating. It happens.
As for your boyfriend, he sleeps in every time he has a single day off because you've been letting him. It sounds like you're a working parent as well as he's a working parent, and you feel as if the parenting responsibilities aren't being shared equally because honestly, this can't really be about sleep. Well... for him it's about sleep. For women it's rarely actually about sleep. :-)
You need to talk with him, but not in an accusatory way. Let him know that on weekends you'd like to do more together as a family and since you only have Sundays together you're going to start planning things for the full day. And when you need help after he gets home from work during the week, ASK HIM even in the middle of the night. Don't wait for him to wake up on his own. Wake him up. Get him up and tell him it's time to go do whatever it is. Be pleasant about it. If he complains, explain that you need some help while you do whatever else it is you're doing.
my husband and i never split up waking up. Oh, how I wish we did. I was exhausted. my daughter woke up every 30-45 mins until she was 2! he works overnite in a high stress, high risk (dangerous) job, so his sleep is more important. if your little one was in daycare, they leave them in a high chair for at least 45 mins or so depending on all the other kids. they don't let them out as soon as they are done. just tell her again that unless he's eating or coloring, etc. you prefer him to not be placed and left in a highchair.
Split it up. You work, too.
When you get home, readdress it. You are the boss. Make sure things are going your way.
