A.,
I am sorry for your loss. I know you are hurting. Please know there are a lot of women who have walked in your shoes. I had 5 miscarriages before delivering my daughter (who's now 11 in June). I had the BEST specialist in Dallas Presbyterian. His name is Dr. Ali Toofanian. I went to him after my 3rd miscarriage and his first consult with me was an hour visit in his office. Next he told me what he thought we were looking at and did some lab work and a brain scan. He was right on all counts. I had an adenoma on my pituitary gland along with my hormones were nuts. I still had a couple of miscarriages after that. Then when I was about 10 weeks with my daughter, I started massive bleeding and knew I was miscarrying again. Turns out I have a blood disorder that produces clots while pregnant. I had to go on heparin shots twice daily and take a baby aspirin. I was also put to bed for the duration of my pregnancy. I did deliver my sweet miracle baby and I don't know who was more proud, my husband and I or Dr. T.
My best advice is find a specialist, maybe someone who specializes in high risk pregnancies. They will recommend what lab work needs to be done and guide you from there. The best part is since they deal with high risk all the time, they are usually incredible people who really understand what you're going through.
If you google Dr. Toofanian, you will see a lot of testimonials to his skill as well as his bedside manners. He's a wonderful, wonderful doctor.
Also, just a sidebar, 4 years later I had a healthy boy. I still had to do the shots and baby aspirin but didn't have to do bedrest. My cup runneth over.
Blessings and comfort to you,
L.