I have a 17 month old girl that refuses to wear a diaper and wants to use the potty. She has been going potty on the toilet when I take her or she will stand in the bathroom to let me know that she has to go. She will still have accidents, but for the most part she wants to go on the toilet. She actually went poop on the toilet last night! I couldn't believe it. I just feel that she is so young and I try to put a diaper on her and she kicks and screams. Right now I am using those thicker panties so when she has an accident it isn't as messy. This has been going on for a couple of days now. Can anyone help me on this one? Should I continue with the potty training since that is what she wants, or is she too young? Thanks for any help you can give.
Thank you so much for all of the wonderful responses! I am going to let her decide when she is ready and not push her, but help her along the way. This was really weird for me because my older daughter who will be 4 in a month, didn't get fully potty trained until 3 1/2. So I must just be lucky with this one. Thanks again!
My older daughter was the same way. She was potty trained when she was just over a year old. Look at it this way..NO MORE diapers. Just be gentle when she has an accident and she seems ready. I tried to use pull ups but she didnt like those either.
Good Luck
Go with it. If she's got the control, no need to hold her back. Good luck. :)
hi, i'm going through the exact same thing right now with my own 17 month old girl-and after a month and a half she's still at it =). personally, i feel that if it's her pushing the matter, go with it, but i'm not putting ANY pressure on her to do it. she also refuses to put on diapers and is super thin for her age so the pull-ups are all too big for her, but she wants to be a big girl so we're just going with it. =)
My little girl started potty training herself at 18 months. She was one of those 'hates to be wet or dirty' kids and I didn't have to do a thing. She was fully trained by 21 months and very rarely had an accident during the day or night starting then. Our little girl is on the small side and it was impossible to find underwear to fit her - 2T was the smallest we could find - we had to have them taken in on the sides. Good luck and lucky you!
My oldest was 22 months when he was trained, mostly on his own will. He refused to wear a diaper around 20 months so I got him some training pants (Fuzzi Bunz Trickle free trainers, we use cloth diapers so these were an easy choice for us) He wore those to bed and regular undies during the day, and he had it down in no time!
My youngest is 15 months, also in cloth diapers but hasn't pooped in a diaper for hte most part sinceh e was 6 months old! He would cry, scream, fuss until we took the diaper off and he would poop. Around 9 months we started putting him on the toilet to poop and now at 15 months he signs potty and we take him in. His diapers are rarely wet, but seeings how they are cloth we just keep using them since undies would be way too big on him!
If she is showing signs, go for it! Be prepared for accidents and be patient and consistent.
I raised 3 that are now grown. My oldest daughter was trained before the age of two day and night in one week. My son was trained and then my mother put diapers on him at night while watching him because she was afraid he would have an accident. That set him back and he wet the bed for years to come. If your daughter is able to communicate that she wants to use the toilet, by all means let her. If you discourage her in this it could discourage her in wanting to do other things for herself in the future as well.
I would say, as long as your daughter is doing it because she wants to, and not because you are forcing her, then let her. She probably wants to be like her older sister. I knew someone who was going to start at 15 months because their daughter seemed ready, but the Dr said that the bladder is too small at that age to hold it for long, and it can cause damage if they try to. They were told not until 18 months, and she is now 20 months and potty trained. Your daughter is close enough to 18 months, I would let her do what she wants, but not really start trying to potty train her until 18 months... let her lead you for now and if she is fully trained by 18 months, then it is because she was ready. You are lucky to have a little girl who wants to do it so young! My 2 1/2 yr old just got to that point a couple weeks ago... but we are waiting until after the holidays are over and everything is completely settled down to really do it... it's too hard with how crazy this season is. In another week or two, I plan on taking a day off work for a long weekend, and start him in underwear, and keep him in it. He spends as much time in the bathroom as he can the way it is anyway. Good luck!
J.
I would just go with what she wants to do. If she wants to use the potty and doesn't have many accidents then just go for it and potty train her. Have you tryed using pull-ups for her accidents? I didn't like them but some people do. You don't want to push her to potty train but ask her if she needs to go once in a while if its been to long so she doesn't have accidents. Hope this helps good luck!!!
That is great that your daughter wants to use the toilet. My advice to you is, let her use the potty during the day, accidents happen now and then, but at night if she throws a fit about diapers, let her know that she has to wear them at bedtime until she doesn't wet/dirty the diaper. It also helps to have her go to the bathroom before she lays down. I hope this helps!
Good Luck.
Go for it! If she's leading the way and is interested, roll with it! I wouldn't push her too much, but be encouraging. She'll likely still have accidents, but if you don't make a huge deal of them it should work out.
Congratulations! I'd guess that if big sister is potty trained your little one just wants to do the same thing.
I agree with everyone comments about letting her lead the way. If she's ready than lucky you! When my oldest child was in the process of potty training we bought "special night time pull-ups" so if she had an accident we didn't have to worry about the bed getting soaked and waking her up. We would say, ok lets put on your "Barbie panties" or "Butterfly panties" that way it wasn't like she was having to wear a diaper or pull-up. Wow, you are soooo lucky! I have a 2 1/2 year old that absolutely does not want to sit on the potty or at least actually go on the potty!
I would continue to let her want to potty train but if she pulls away or has continuous accidents be ready and willing to make her go back in diapers. My daughter was very interested in using the potty at 15mos. old but that only lasted a week and she wasn't actually potty trained til she was 2.5years old.
My advise on pullups are they are a waste of money. They make it 10x harder to change because you have to remove their shoes and pants completely and cost more than diapers. They also make it so comfortable and absorbant that kids don't mind going in them.
If I ever potty train again with future kids were going straight from diapers to underpants.
Just go with the flow and don't make a big deal about it.
I have noticed that all my friends kids that potty trained EARLY or were forced ended up having kids regress a year later or so and almost be completely untrained so becareful.
If she wants to potty train let her! Potty training can be really difficult for some kids and parents, but she sounds like a natural! She may end up losing interest or it may take a while for her to be completely accident free. There is nothing developmentally 'wrong' with potty training earlier than average.
Congratulations!
J.
Oh my gosh A. do you know how awesome that is????? my daughter is 5 now and when she hit 15mo she wanted to use the potty.. i dispise pull ups they dont work.. well atleast not for my kids. by 17mo she was fully potty trianed. now my son on the other had it took me untill he was 2mo past his second birthday to get him fully potty trained and he still has accidents. so what your daughter is doing is just awesome... shes ready let her go with it and dont hold her back. ask her if she has to go potty about every hour or maybe 2hrs or take her into the bathroom when you go. i know they grow up fast but this is an awesome thing. my cousin has a daughter that is 3 and shes still in diapers and doesnt want to go on the potty. so take this as a blessing.
hugs and good luck.
ang
