N.,
It is my sincere opinion that whatever you do now will determine how your child will eat through her life and how healthy she will be as an adult. It will also be a big part of shaping her character.
It's ok to hide some veggies in various recipes in order to get a variety of veggies down the kids. Kids are naturally picky and it gets worse before it gets better. But sometimes parents make a big mistake.
What a lot of moms do is find a small list of things they will eat and ways they will eat them and they stick with it. They don't want to deal with the guilt they feel if their child is hungry. They don't want to deal with the tantrums if they make them eat. Basically, they are too lazy and don't want to be bothered with parenting in some cases.
When you do that this is what happens...
I am on Nutrisystem for my weight loss journey. There are thousands of people on there. Every day someone comes on there and say's they can't eat veggies, they hate them and they only eat one, two, maybe 3 veggies and they only eat them...smothered in butter, cheese, or covered with ranch dressing. These people have lived most of their lives eating breads and french fries and potato chips. They have altered their taste buds and they have become malnutritioned in the process!
Myself, I have become overwight on good healthy food. I love ALL food. I wasn't taught as a child how to portion out my food and I turned to food as comfort. But that's another parenting job to discuss for another day. I was also part of the clean your plate club. Also another rant, but not really.
What you need to do is discipline your child for spitting out the food. You decide what your going to do. She's your daughter. How you handle it is up to you. But do something to make it very clear to her that spitting out her food is wrong.
Myself I remove them from the table the moment they spit out teir food. That meal is over. They won't eat anymore until the next planned meal or snack. I tell them why they are done. You don't have to end their meals many times before they become hungry enough to eat.
I would learn all kinds of recipes and ways to cook all kinds of veggies so that your child has the very best chance at learning to eat as many veggies and as many ways of cooking them as possible. NEVER ever limit your child's meals to the few they eat without hassle. Then again, never hassle with your kids over eating in the first place. If they don't eat at a meal or even for a whole day or two, they won't die. And they won't go that long without eating something. They'll pick at this and that.
During this phasing in of many kinds of veggies, don't forget to be just as creative with fruits and breads and teach them to enjoy trying new foods. Now is the time to teach them that it's a big world out there. It doesn't have to be a bad thing.
Studies show that if you put a large variety of food in front of your toddler over a months time, they will naturally find enough to eat a well balanced diet. The problem is that parents try so hard to avoid any kind of confrentation that they turn them into a picky eater and frankly it stunts their character in their life to come. These people become adults that refuse to learn anything new because they have been so spoiled by their parents. They somehow think life revolves around them and that everything in life should be comfortable all the time. That's not reality.
Suzi